By 2 months, your baby will be more alert and social, and
will spend more time awake during the day. This will make her a
little more tired during the dark, quiet hours when no one is on
hand to entertain her. Meanwhile, her stomach capacity will be
growing so that she needs less frequent feedings; as a result
she may start skipping one middle-of-the-night feeding and sleep
from around 10:00 p.m. through to daylight. By 3 months, most
(but not all) infants consistently sleep through the night
(seven or eight hours without waking).
If your child does not start sleeping through the night by 3
months, you may need to give her some encouragement by keeping
her awake longer in the afternoon and early evening. Play with
her actively at these times, or let her join the rest of the
family in the kitchen or living room so she's not tempted to
drift to sleep before bedtime. Increase the amount of her
feeding right before bed (if she's breastfeeding, increase the
amount of time she nurses), so she doesn't wake up too early
because she's hungry.
Sometimes you may think your baby is waking up when she's
actually going through a phase of very light slumber. She could
be squirming, startling, fussing or even crying and still be
asleep. Or she may be awake but on the verge of drifting off
again if left alone. Don't make the mistake of trying to comfort
her during these moments; you'll only awaken her further and
delay her going back to sleep. Instead, if you let her fuss and
even cry for a few minutes, she'll learn to get herself to sleep
without relying on you. Some babies actually need to let off
energy by crying in order to settle into sleep or rouse
themselves out of it. As much as 15 to 20 minutes of fussing
won't do your child any harm. Just be sure she's not crying out
of hunger or pain, or because her diaper is wet. Although it may
be difficult just to let her cry for even a minute or two, you
and she will be much better off in the long run.
Sleeping Problems
Even after your baby has established a fairly regular and
reasonable sleep pattern, problems can develop. For example,
it's common for babies at this age to get their days and nights
mixed up so that they're doing most of their sleeping during the
day. Although this situation may seem to occur without warning,
it usually develops over several days. The baby begins by
sleeping more during the day, which causes her to sleep less at
night. If she's fed and comforted when she wakes up at night,
she'll adopt this new sleep cycle quite naturally. To prevent or
break this habit, induce your baby to go back to sleep as
quickly as possible during the night. Don't turn up the lights,
talk or play with her. If you need to feed and change her, try
to disturb her as little as possible when doing so. Then keep
her awake as much as possible during the day, and don't put her
down for the night before 10:00 or 11:00 p.m. Remember at this
age, children should be put to sleep on their back. If you're
patient and consistent, her sleep pattern will soon start to
respond.
Many infants also wake up too early in the morning to suit
their parents. Sometimes this problem can be solved by putting
shades on the windows to block out the morning sun; then when
the baby awakens, perhaps after a few minutes of fussing, she
may fall back to sleep. If this doesn't work; however, it may
help to keep her up an extra hour at night. Unfortunately, not
all infants are able to sleep late in the morning; some wake up
automatically and are ready to start the day at dawn. If that's
your own baby's pattern, you have little choice but to adapt to
her schedule. As she gets older (age 6 to 8 months), having
favorite toys in her crib may keep her occupied so you can have
a few more minutes to sleep.
Excerpted from Caring
for Baby and Young Child: Birth to Age 5, Bantam 1999